You’re at a crossroads. Your mom isn’t able to live alone safely anymore, or your dad is struggling to care for himself after the loss of a spouse. Now what? For many families, caring for aging parents feels like the next step. And while becoming a family caregiver is a deeply meaningful role, it’s also a major decision.

Before committing, it’s important to weigh the benefits and challenges—and to explore senior living options that may offer the right balance of care and independence for everyone involved.

The emotional rewards of being a family caregiver

Simply put, caregiving is an act of love. When the person receiving care is a parent, that relationship becomes even more personal. Many caregivers say the role helps them feel closer to their loved one—and gives them the chance to express gratitude for the years of love and sacrifice their parent once gave them.

In fact, nearly 8 in 10 family caregivers report that caregiving strengthened their bond with their parent.¹ It can also provide a sense of purpose, pride, and emotional fulfillment that’s hard to replicate in other roles.

The upsides of caregiving:

• Extra time with your parent in their later years
• Opportunities to share stories, laughter, and comfort
• A sense of pride in supporting someone who once supported you
• The ability to personalize care and routines based on your parent’s preferences

The hidden costs of caregiving

Despite its emotional rewards, caregiving can also carry a heavy burden. Many people step into this role unexpectedly, without fully anticipating the impact it will have on their health, career, finances, and relationships.

Studies show that:

• 53% of family caregivers experience depression.²
• Working caregivers have a two-thirds higher risk of developing a chronic illness.²
• Caregivers are more likely to be hospitalized or take prescription medications than their peers.²

Beyond the physical strain, there are other challenges to consider.

Common caregiving stressors include:

• Career disruption: Managing appointments, medications, and emergencies can mean missed workdays or reduced hours.
• Social isolation: Many caregivers spend 24+ hours per week providing care, leaving little time for hobbies or friendships.³
• Strained partnerships: Bringing a parent into your home may cause unexpected tension with your spouse.
• Sibling dynamics: Unequal caregiving responsibilities often lead to conflict or resentment.
• Financial pressure: Many caregivers contribute their own money toward their parent’s expenses.
• Burnout: Over time, neglecting your own health and wellness can lead to exhaustion, anxiety, or chronic stress.

How to plan ahead when caregiving is on the table

If you’re considering becoming a caregiver, preparation is key. Taking the time to plan ahead can help preserve your well-being and your relationship with your parent.

Tips for stepping into the role:

• Take care of yourself first: Attend your own doctor visits, and don’t hesitate to join a caregiver support group.
• Explore community resources: Adult day care, meal programs, and assisted living communities that offer respite care can help you recharge.
• Talk openly with your parent: Don’t wait for a crisis to discuss long-term plans. Ask what they want—and share your own limits and hopes.
• Set financial boundaries: Create a sustainable plan that works for you and your parent. Look into financial aid or local programs that may help.

Finding support beyond family caregiving

At The Arbors and The Ivy, we understand the complexities of caregiving. That’s why our communities offer not only long-term care—but also respite care options for families who need short-term support. With personalized service plans, 24/7 staffing, and a family-first approach, we’re here to help you make the best decision for your loved one.

Learn more about senior living options and whether caregiving or community support is the right path forward. Contact us today for more information.

Footnotes 

1. AARP. “Caregiving in the U.S. 2020.” Accessed April 14, 2025.
2. Family Caregiver Alliance. “Caregiver Health.” Accessed April 14, 2025.
3. National Alliance for Caregiving. “Caregiving in the U.S. 2020.” Accessed April 14, 2025.