Understanding Depression in Older Adults: How to Recognize the Signs and Support Your Loved One
Depression in older adults is far more common than many people realize — and it’s often overlooked. The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention estimates that up to 20% of adults over age 65 experience depression, but the symptoms don’t always look the same as they do in younger people. For older adults, depression is not simply “feeling sad.” It can impact physical health, cognition, daily function, energy, and overall quality of life.
Left untreated, depression can contribute to:
Unintended weight loss or weight gain
Changes in sleep patterns (insomnia or excessive sleep)
Increased confusion or memory changes
Difficulty with daily tasks
Slower reaction times
Withdrawal from others and favorite activities
Increased risk of falls
Thoughts of self-harm or suicide
That’s why early recognition and support are so important.
Common Signs of Depression in Older Adults
If you’ve noticed changes in your aging parent or loved one, take note of patterns that last longer than two weeks. Symptoms may include:
Persistent sadness, emptiness, or tearfulness
Loss of interest in hobbies or social activities
Changes in appetite (eating significantly more or less than usual)
Trouble sleeping or sleeping too much
Noticeable slowing down or increased restlessness (pacing, tapping, wringing hands)
Low energy or persistent fatigue
Feelings of guilt or worthlessness
Difficulty concentrating or making decisions
Increased physical complaints: aches, pains, headaches, digestive issues
Expressions of hopelessness or thoughts of death
If several of these signs are present, consider speaking with your loved one’s physician. A screening tool like the Geriatric Depression Scale (GDS) is often used to help determine if depression is present and to guide next steps.
What Happens Next?
A healthcare provider may:
Complete a physical exam
Review medications and medical history
Check for underlying conditions (thyroid changes, vitamin deficiencies, pain issues, etc.)
Recommend therapy, supportive counseling, lifestyle changes, community resources, or antidepressant medications when appropriate
But support at home — emotional, social, and environmental — plays a critical role in healing.
7 Ways to Support a Loved One Experiencing Winter Blues or Depression
Encourage Balanced Nutrition
Support meals that include lean proteins, whole grains, colorful produce, and consistent hydration. If your loved one has decreased appetite, try smaller, more frequent meals. Avoid excess alcohol, which can worsen depressive symptoms.Use Gentle, Reassuring Touch
A warm hand on theirs, a hug, or sitting close can bring comfort. Research consistently shows that compassionate touch supports emotional wellbeing in older adults.Promote Social Connection
Social isolation is a major contributor to depression. If your schedule is full, consider:Scheduling visits from siblings or relatives
Connecting with local senior centers
Exploring community programs
Assisted Living communities like The Arbors and The Ivy offer structured activities, dining companionship, outings, and supportive staff — all designed to help residents feel engaged and connected.
Help Them Get Out Into the World
Even small outings can make a big difference:Lunch at a favorite café
A trip to the hairdresser
A scenic drive
A visit to a library or local shop
Encourage Movement
Gentle exercise — especially outdoors — boosts natural mood-lifting chemicals. A short winter walk in the sunshine can improve sleep, appetite, and overall outlook.Recognize Depression as a Medical Illness
Depression is not a personal weakness — and it can’t be fixed simply by “thinking positive.” Patience, empathy, and consistent reassurance matter.Check Vitamin D Levels
Vitamin D deficiency can mimic or worsen depressive symptoms. Talk to your loved one’s doctor about testing and healthy ways to improve levels (safe sunlight exposure, supplements if recommended).
You Don’t Have to Navigate This Alone
Caring for a loved one with depression can feel overwhelming. At The Arbors and The Ivy Assisted Living Communities, we understand the emotional, social, and physical needs of older adults — and we support families every day through these transitions.
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Our care is compassionate.
Our mission is simple: Let our family take care of yours.
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If you’d like to learn more, schedule a visit or speak with one of our community teams — we’re here to help.